Poo Poo Platter

Being in a relationship and being in love can be such a love/hate time in a girl’s life. I thought before I started writing this that I would have more negative things to say rather than positive. However, being in a relationship that goes downhill doesn’t always have to end by crashing into a brick wall. People change...and it is one of the many hard things in life that you just have to accept. When you are a teenager the person you start dating is most likely eventually going to make new friends, and maybe even start a new style. It only makes sense that with a new wardrobe and posse, along with it will come a new person. Fact is, you can only hope that deep down that person’s morals and values don’t change as well and that they don’t leave you standing there asking yourself where did my other half go?.. Hate to break it to ya sista, but this is why many people “fall out of love.” But in my opinion, I think it is better to fall out of love, rather than never experiencing love at all. And besides, who says you needed that half anyways… when you can be the whole damn thing and be happy! That’s right all my single ladies, just remember you don’t have to lower your standards to match someone else’s. Be strong enough to be your own person. I guess you just gotta learn to smile and walk away and remember the good times… life goes rolling on.

“So Unpredictable.”
Comfort. That’s what happens to most couples after being in a relationship for a long time. The skirt you wore in the beginning turns into jeans, then sweatpants, then eventually you are left there naked… just kidding. But honestly you eventually become so comfortable with that person, hence when people say “I couldn’t imagine you not being in my life!” Its okay to grow closer with the person, but it’s not okay when you become TOO dependent on them. That’s when the unexpected can happen…such as that evil thing called change or maybe even breaking up for one reason or another… either way you don’t want to be left there stripped of your dignity.

How is this a problem?
Well, there isn’t really any problem with growing closer with someone. Not all relationships last forever, you are still young. Being in different relationships can help you learn who you are and what kind of person you are truly meant to be with. Until then, there’s no rush! Just enjoy having fun and if you can find someone to have fun with then, that’s just awesome!

Story Time!
The Egg Drop Soup
The dress, the makeup, the hair all goes into the perfect prom, right? Well…. Not for me.
I guess it all started when my so called, “Prince Charming” dropped me like an egg on a steaming sidewalk, left to be scrambled… okay well maybe it wasn’t that intense, but hey this drop really hurt!
If someone asked me during my freshmen year if I would consider not going to my senior prom, I would say “no way!” Well if that someone was my friend freshmen year, chances are we didn’t stay friends for very long (there were many “Wrapped up Wontons” in my school.) It was nice because my boyfriend and I kind of saw through those types of people, and stayed true to ourselves. However, after two and a half years we broke up. It was in January, about four months before prom. His reasoning was that I was going away to college and I deserve better (aka he wanted to live it up while he could in high school because he wasn’t going away to college.) Well whatever the reason, I knew it was time – we both changed. Sad to say, but when we were breaking up, one of the last comments he said was, “but ill still go to prom with you!” As if it was some favor, more like a pity invite.
This was surprising on many levels because while we were going out he said he didn’t even want to go to prom, but then he had to ask as if he was doing a good deed after the break up. Well, being taken aback from everything, I told him we would talk about it another time. Another time never really came around, and while waiting to hear what was going to happen I overheard everyone else’s plans. While sitting in my least favorite class, math, I listen in on these two girls talking behind me about who was sitting at their prom table. When they said my ex-boyfriend’s name, you could understand my shock, he taking his friend’s younger sister… I wanted to throw my calculator across the room. When I asked him what was going on he said, “well I figured you didn’t want to go with me anyways.” I’m sorry, but who wants to get asked to prom when their getting broken up with?! Was it so much to have wanted him to ask me in a nice, genuine way, the girl he dated for half of high school?
After thinking about it, I realized I didn’t really need to go to my prom. Instead I spent my senior prom night going to see the Sex and the City movie with my mom at midnight. And you know what, I had a great time! While my classmates were probably sneaking in alcohol to prom, I snuck in ice cream and candy bars into the movies. Prom is about being with the friends and people you have fun with, and to be honest the girls at my school were not my idea of fun. To put it in the nicest way possible, they were backstabbing, bitchy, and overall fake. My mom was there for me all of high school, I guess you can say she was my prom date! I don’t regret my choice; and plus the movie was awesome. But anyways, moral of the story is your expectations of how life should turn out, doesn’t often happen. I never expected my prom night, to be sitting in a movie theater with my mom, rather than at a prom table with my friends, or have my hair in a ponytail, rather than an up-do, but you got to laugh.
Life’s not a storybook; I thought certain times of my life were supposed to have the pages written for me. But then I discovered I could become the author, and there’s nothing better than that.

The Repair.
Make choices and decisions that are best for you; that way when you look back you can say you wouldn’t have done it any other way… or maybe it was a bad decision and you can learn from it, either way it was YOUR choice. Point is being in a relationship can influence you to change along with your partner, just make sure that’s what you want too. As we have said many times you can’t go wrong with staying true to yourself!