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Dear Classy,

            I’ve been dating my boyfriend for over a year and now, and everything is great except for the fact he hates my Mom! I don’t know what to do... I feel like my mom has done nothing wrong, but he just seems to hate her.  He says that she’s too overprotective… but I mean she is my mom, and it’s not like I can just get rid of her.  I love her and him. What should I do?

- Mama’s Girl, 18, New York

Dear Mama’s Girl,

            First of all you are not a “mama’s girl”… you just love your mother and it’s hard for you, or for anyone to hear harsh things about their parents/family.  To me, I feel that family comes first. If your boyfriend truly respects you, he should respect your family too.  Your mother being too overprotective is not a reason to “hate” someone… either he is lying about the reason why he does not like her or he is just not that right one for you.  If you truly feel like you are soul mates, you can try to separate them as much as possible; such as when you are hanging out, you both can go to a private place, where it is just the two of you.  You can even check out our “5 Fun & Easy Dates” for some ideas.  But he does have to realize that if you two are going to stay together, he will eventually have to be around her.  That is on him to try and find a way to control his feelings towards your mom.   If you want to continue to make things work and grow closer, this is an issue that will defiantly need to be discussed.  You can try to see how the separation goes, and if it just gets worse over time, despite how much you love him; perhaps it is time to move on…

Much Love,

Classy